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Die, My Love review – an extremely fraught, emotionally intense tale of motherhood

Die, My Love applies a gauzy, dream-like quality to a fraught tale of motherhood

Odd couple: Jennifer Lawrence and Robert Pattinson share intense times in Die, My Love. Image: MUBI / Kimberly French

Perhaps you’ve already heard about Jennifer Lawrence’s high-wire performance in Die, My Love, either from admiring film festival reviews or her recent boisterous appearance on Graham Norton. She plays Grace, a socially isolated new mother in rural Montana whose sturdy denim dungarees belie the fact that she is coming apart at the seams. 

Grace stalks through her garden’s tall grass on all fours like a panther, which might feel like a playtime goof if she wasn’t also holding a large kitchen knife. We see her standing in the middle of her kitchen before she alarmingly flops her head and arms down like a puppet who has had their strings cut. She parks her butt inside her old-fashioned fridge, casually spitting out an arc of beer onto the floor (that we never saw her take a swig makes it all the more disquieting). 

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Some of this behaviour you could argue away as just the sort of things people do when they have been left alone too long. Who hasn’t idly imagined wedging themselves into a fridge on a swelteringly hot day? But the cumulative effect of these eccentric, dissociative behaviours – often edited in woozy montages where it is impossible to keep track of time – creates a palpable sense of dread, particularly with a baby involved. If this is the baseline of freaking out, where will Grace end up? 

It all begins rather more optimistically. We first meet Grace and her partner Jackson (Robert Pattinson) as a couple making a fresh start. The death of Jackson’s uncle means they can take over his creaky Montana house. They are both creative people – she’s a writer, he’s some sort of musician – and most artists would kill for a bucolic retreat free from modern distractions where the muse can descend. The pair are clearly in love, and lust, giving the impression that they will enthusiastically christen every room in their run-down new home.

Grace is visibly pregnant, although as she and Jackson cheerfully thrash around to punk rock in their kitchen the message seems to be: becoming a mother isn’t going to stop me having fun. But after their son is born – rarely called anything other than “the boy” – things start to unravel.

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That Grace is struggling with postpartum depression seems obvious but Jackson seems furtive and frightened rather than supportive. He disappears for long stretches on the road, where Grace can easily imagine him hooking up with waitresses. His idea of fixing things is to bring home a puppy to fortify the family unit, as if a needy, barking dog that requires house-training will help. 

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“Everybody goes a little loopy during the first year,” confides Grace’s mother-in-law Pam (Sissy Spacek), who is going through her own trials caring for her ailing husband Harry (Nick Nolte, in a brief but effective cameo). But Grace continues to spiral, and the film is so tied to her frazzled, increasingly paranoid point of view that it’s never clear what is real or just imagined.

Can she truly hear the baby crying or is it an auditory hallucination? Is she being stalked by a mysterious biker? What is the significance of the jet-black horse? Even the cinematography seems to be out to get her: Die, My Love is shot in such a square frame that Grace often seems hemmed in and unable to escape. 

Director Lynne Ramsay previously made We Need to Talk About Kevin (2011), another extremely fraught tale of motherhood. Here she is adapting the debut novel by Argentine writer Ariana Harwicz, noted for its hallucinogenic style, so it seems appropriate that Die, My Love has such a gauzy, dream-like quality.

What it lacks in narrative precision – the viewer must jigsaw together when the various births, marriages and deaths take place in the timeline – it arguably makes up for in sheer emotional intensity.  

Die, My Love is the sort of film you basically have to strap in for and hope you can hang on until the end, with precious little respite to catch your breath or mentally reset. All of it is powered by Lawrence’s fearless, barn-burning performance, a Molotov cocktail of bloodied fingernails, brinksmanship and spilt breast milk. Bravo. 

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