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'The Accidental Memoir' is the inspirational guide to writing your life story

"We ran sessions with groups of women who were on probation, with a ‘Being Dad’ group in prison, with refugees, in homes for the elderly, with school pupils. The sessions proved to be rewarding, challenging, emotional and, without doubt, uplifting"

The Accidental Memoir began with a dilemma: what to buy my father for Christmas. Dad was raised in a Cypriot village, his house centrally heated by the family horse who shared the living room. He travelled to England in the 1960s with five pounds in his pocket and spent his first night in a telephone box.

I had the idea of buying a notebook and filling it with prompts that would encourage him to write about his experiences. I hoped it would draw a quiet man out of his shell and help him recognise the specialness of his life.

The ability to tell a story doesn’t depend on levels of literacy or IQ

He began writing almost immediately and I discovered things I didn’t know. He’d been working on an invention for a petrol-free engine, had a flair for rhyming couplets and often thought about a younger brother who’d died in his arms, though he was “told not to bother – that God would send another.”

His stories were all written in blunt pencil. But that didn’t matter. The book wasn’t about precision or grammar or spelling.

The ability to tell a story doesn’t depend on levels of literacy or IQ. We started using a prototype of The Accidental Memoir last autumn after securing Arts Council funding to run a series of workshops in places where people weren’t normally exposed to creative writing. We ran sessions with groups of women who were on probation, with a ‘Being Dad’ group in prison, with refugees, in homes for the elderly, with school pupils. The sessions proved to be rewarding, challenging, emotional and, without doubt, uplifting.

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The Accidental Memoir. Image: HarperCollings

We didn’t know what to expect when we went to meet the probation group. The women were, understandably, nervous at first but soon got going with questions like “What would you change if you were in charge of the world?”

The answers included “there would be no need for drugs or alcohol… trips to Mediterranean island would be free and would take five minutes… there would be no domestic violence… poverty would be eradicated… no wars… parking would be free in the town centre.”

We moved on to list 10 things that have been important in their lives. They chose one to write about. The room was instantly filled with smiles. People became animated, discussing hits from the 1980s, from the Noughties, from now. Each song came with a story and people were enthused, glad to be talking and sharing.

When we visited the refugee centre we used an exercise about food. “Write about a favourite meal. What was it? Who cooked it? Can you remember the recipe?”

We had a class of Syrians, Libyans and people from Iraq. Soon, we were all discussing recipes for falafels, talking about soups and sauces they made. It was a revelation. We were one.

In a school with young people we wrote poems and stories about favourite places, magic boxes, memories, future hopes. One boy, who was deaf, wrote about his operation and about the first time he heard his mother say his name. The class fell silent. How can you get deeper and more emotional than that?

Illustration: Mitch Blunt

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